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You’re Engaged!! What now?

You’re Engaged!! What now?

So your relationship just went to the next level. You are taking that next step in the love department and probably one of the biggest ones you will make in your relationship life span. Why would I say this? Because it takes significant consideration to reach a mutual agreement for this level of commitment and in most cases, one person having to make a decision to “pop the question” and the other to “say yes”.

The origins of European engagement practice lie in Jewish law, where marriage consisted of two seperate actions in the form of a “betrothal ceremony” and an actual “marriage ceremony”. Then there was a process now known as “engagement“, a ritual that has taken hold of the modern experience in the marriage process, first a ring with a promise, followed by an engagement party and impending marriage.

The average length of an engagement is 14.5 months—but is it okay to be engaged much longer than that?

The Knot

So you are engaged, for some it’s finally, for others it’s unexpected, for most it was the natural progression for wanting to take that next step and in some respects a mutual decision. So how long do you wait after the engagement happened to get married? Should we have an engagement party? What is the point? Like anything and every part of this time in your life together the choices are simple, they are YOURS.

Here is one piece of advice the Team at Our Wedding is going to give you, “everyone will have an opinion”, not matter what you do, or say, or want, or don’t want someone you know, close or otherwise won’t like it. The best you can hope for is that you and your fiance are on the same page, you can take a united front and plan the Wedding of both your dreams.

The engagement party, what do I do? Even though there is a history of origins to all practices in the Wedding process, the modern day celebration has no written rules, except the legal expectations of course, but otherwise you write your own story. Have you had a Birthday party or special occasion before? This is just like that but celebrating your Engagement. BUT if you want some help and because there are a million places you can go to seek advice, check out Weddingwire there is literally something for everyone.

Oh and one last thing, find someone you trust and or love unconditionally because you are going to need them. As we have said before this is one of the top 10 most stressful events of your lifetime, your health and well-being is far more important than “why my bridesmaid hates her dress”. This is your day, so your way, not negotiable. We are always here to support.

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